pati-patniya layi
3: aadar karo
is da ki matlab hai?
aadar karan vale pati-patni odo vi parvah dikhaunde han jado ohna di anbaan hundi hai. ik kitab dassdi hai: “eh jorre ajehe halaat paida hi nahi hon dinde jithe ohna layi sula karni aukhi ho jave. is di bajaye, oh har masle bare salah-mashvra karde han atey ik-dooje di sunn ke ajeha hal labhan di koshish karde han jis vich dova di sehmti hove.”—Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage.
bible da asool: “pyaar . . . apne bare hi nahi sochda.”—1 kurinthiya 13:4, 5.
“apni patni da aadar karan da matlab hai ki mai os di kadar kara. mai ajeha koi kamm nahi karna chahunda jis naal os nu nuksan hove ja sadda aapsi rishta kharab hove.”—micah.
eh zaroori kyo hai?
jehrre jorre ik-dooje da aadar nahi karde, oh aksar ik-dooje vich nuks kadhde rehnde, chubhviya galla kehnde atey itho tak ki nafrat bhariya galla karde han. khojkar kehnde han ki inha galla to pata laggda hai ki vyaahuta bandhan tutt sakda hai.
“apni patni nu chubhviya te apmanjanak galla kehen ja os da mazaak udaun karke oh apne aap nu ghatia samjhegi, os da apne pati to bharosa utth javega atey vyaahuta rishta kamzor ho javega.”—brian.
tusi ki kar sakde ho?
apni janch karo
ik hafte apnia galla te kamma val dhyaan dyo. fir apne aap to puchho:
‘mai kinni ku vaar apne sathi di nuktacheeni keeti atey kinni ku vaar os di tareef keeti?’
‘mai kehrre khaas tareekya raahi os nu aadar dikhaya?’
apne sathi naal mil ke inha savaala te charcha karo
kehrre kamma atey galla karke tuhanu laggega ki tuhada aadar keeta ja reha hai?
kehrre kamma atey galla karke tuhanu laggda hai ki tuhadi beizti hundi hai?
sujhaa
tinn tareeke likho jinha raahi tusi chahunde ho ki tuhada sathi tuhada aadar kare. apne sathi nu vi likhan layi kaho. fir list ik-dooje nu dyo atey ohna tareekya raahi aadar dikhaun di koshish karo.
apne sathi de ohna gunna di list banao jehrre tuhanu pasand han. fir apne sathi nu dasso ki tusi inha gunna di kinni kadar karde ho.
“apne pati da aadar karan layi mai apne kamma raahi dikhaundi ha ki mai os di kadar kardi ha atey mai os nu hamesha khush karna chahundi ha. mai koi vadda kamm kar ke nahi, sago chhotiya-chhotiya galla vich vi os nu aadar dikha sakdi ha.”—megan.
shayad tuhanu laggda hove ki ‘mai ta hamesha aadar naal pesh aaunda.’ par eh gal maene nahi rakhdi. savaal eh hai ki ki tuhade sathi nu vi idda hi laggda.
bible da asool: “humdardi, daya, nimarta, narmayi te dheeraj nu kappdiya vang pehn lo.”—kulussiya 3:12.
