“YAKHALA etthu eniwerya aka opaka, mukileele”. Ela ti etthu anceene a hiyo enihimya ahu wa mpatthani aahiiso mmusi okhweliwe niinano. Nto hiyo nnihimya eyo ni murima wotheene. Hiyo ninrowa opaka khuta etthu enitthuneya wira nikhaliherye. Masi niireke wira ole okhweliwe onooniitthana ni ohimya wira: “Vano kihuupuwela enitthuneya anyu opaka wira mukikhaliherye”? Eyo etthu yoovila wiiraneya. Tthiri, waaniheryasa pooti okhala vootthuneya hiyo opaka etthu nihirummwale akhala wira nniphavela waakhaliherya aahiiso waamaaliha ale akhweliwe.

Muhapo mmosa wa Biibiliya onihimya wira: “Molumo òrera ahimmwe okathi worera anlikana n’iwero ehotthiwe mmukalani motutha”. (Miruku 15:23; 25:11) Ti wa miruku osuwela ele enitthuneya ahu ohimya ni ele ehinitthuneya ahu ohimya, ni ele enitthuneya ahu opaka ni ehinitthuneya ahu opaka. Nto, aakhala malakiheryo makina anikhuma mBiibiliyani yaakhalihenrye atthu akina akhweliwe.

Nwiriyaneke: Yakobo 1:19 onihimya wira: “Khuta mutthu ohana wakuvela owiriyana”. Etthu emosa enikhaliherya vanceene, yeeyo nyuwo muniwerya anyu opaka wa ole okhweliwe, ti onwiriyana. Atthu akina akhweliwe pooti ophavela olavula sa ole okhwiiye onimphenta aya, voohimya sa ehasara aahiiso eretta emwiivale, wala voohimya sa moonelo aya okhuma nihiku nenne nikhumelenle naakhwa. Nto mwaakoheke: “Mwaaniphavela olavula voohimya sa itthu iyo?” Mwaahiye wira athanle. Uupuwelaka okathi waakhwiiye tiithi awe, mmiravo mmosa aahimmye so: “Eyo yaanikikhaliherya vaavo akina yaakikoha aya ele yiiranen’ye ni vaavo tthiri yaakiwiriyana aya”. Mwaawiriyaneke saana ni moophenta nnaamwi muhirowaka owerya waakhula makoho otheene aahiiso otthokiherya. Mwaahiye wira alavule akhala wira anniphavela ohimya etthu.

Mwaalipiheke: Mwaalipiherye wira awo aapaka ele yaawerya aya (aahiiso muhimye etthu ekina nyuwo munisuwela anyu okhala ekeekhai ni yookhalela). Mwaalipiherye wira moonelo aya, ntoko oriipiwa murima, onanariwa, wiivaha nthowa, aahiiso miyuupuwelo sikina, itthu siniiraneya. Mwaaleele sa atthu akina yaatonko owiiraneela etthu ntoko eyo masi avikanne muxankiho owo mookhumela saana. Eliivuru ya Miruku 16:24 enihimya wira: “Masu [awo] a murettele” ‘annivaha ekumi erutthu’.—1 aTesalonika 5:11, 14.

Mwiivahererye wira mukhaliherye: Mwiivahererye, ohiya paahi mahiku vakhaani vaavo apatthani ni amusi anceene aniira aya aryeene vaavo, masi pooti-tho nuuvira myeeri sinceene vaavo akina vaniira aya atthikenle ene miteko saya. Opaka eyo nyuwo munooniherya okhala “mpatthani [eekeekhai]”, mutthu yoole onooniherya okhala munna okathi “w’oxanka”. (Miruku 17:17) Teresa, yoowo aakhweliwe mwanawe mwaha wa ehasara ya ekaaro  onihimya wira: “Apatthani ahu yaahireherya miteko soovara ohiyu wira nihivirihe okathi munceene nri mekhihu owaani”. “Eyo yaahinikhaliherya ovilela othunku waaniphwannye mwaha wa opweteiwa”. Mmaloko makina, mahiku anuupuweleliwa, ntoko mahiku a wuupuwelela ekasamento aahiiso wuupuwelela nihiku na naakhwa, pooti okhala okathi woothananiha wa ale ahanle ari akumi. Okathi owo, apatthani akina anniivahererya wira yaamaalihe.

Mpaceryeke wiivahererya: Niireke wira sookhala itthu sinitthuneya ovariwa? Niireke wira onitthuneya mutthu wira aakhapeleleke anamwane? Niireke wira apatthani ni amusi arwiiye oxukurya anitthuneya opuro wookhala? Ale akhweliwe niinano ikwaha sinceene annixankiheya vanceene ahinasuwela ele awo anitthuneya aya opaka, vaatepa-tho waaleela akina ele eniphavela aya wira akhaliheriwe. Nto akhala wira munniweha muteko onitthuneya ovariwa, muhiwehereryeke ovekeliwa; mpaceriheke ovara. (1 aKorinto 10:24; mulikanyihe ni 1 Yohani 3:17, 18.) Muthiyana mmosa aakhweliwe iyawe aahuupuwela wira: “Atthu anceene yaanihimya wira: ‘Yakhala etthu eniwerya aka opaka, mukileele’. Masi mpatthani mmosa muthiyana khaakonhe. Owo aaronwe okwaartu, khikumiha mikhumi saanananre okathi wa naakhwa ni khukattha. Muthiyana mukina aakunxe epaaliti ya maasi, ni esaphau wira orapihe etapete yaarapheeliwe ni iyaka. Nuumala ovira isumana vakhaani, mutokweene mmosa a mmulokoni aahirwa owanre ene ikuwo sa omutekoni ni okunxe ene ikaruma sawe ni khuhimya oriki: ‘Koosuwela wira yookhala etthu enreerela olokiherya. Etthu xeeni?’ Moota woonihenrya awe ophenta mulopwana ole wa miyo mwaha wa olokiherya mukhora aka, ohelaka etooportisa ni waalokiherya aluuxo!”​—Mulikanyihe ni Yakobo 1:27.

Nwaakheleke aletto: Biibiliya onninuupuxerya oriki: “Muhihiyé owakhela aletto”. (aHéberi 13:2) Vanceenexa, naanitthuneya wuupuwelaka owaakhela ale ariipiwe murima. Muhaalattuleke muriki “murweeke owaani okathi onoona anyu”, masi muthanle nihiku ni okathi. Yakhootta vale muhaakuvele ohiya waalattula. Khino vanitthuneya waatumererya moophenta. Waaniheryasa awo annikhootta waakhulela nlattulo nanyu mwaha woowi  anoova wunla ohoolo wa atthu akina. Aahiiso pooti wiivaha nthowa mwaha woolya ni otthekula okathi ntoko owo. Mmuupuweleke Lidia yoowo aari muthiyana oowaakhela aletto onihimmwa mBiibiliyani. Nuumala Luka olattuliwa owannyawe Lidia, Luka owo onihimya wira: ‘[Lidia] ahinikhanyererya otthuna’.​—Miteko s’Arummwa 16:15.

Mpixeke murima ni muleveleleke: Muhitikhine ele wanipacerya ale akhweliwe waaniheryasa enihimya aya. Muupuweleke wira awo khino aroonanariwa ni aniivaha nthowa. Akhala wira anihimya moolumo moonanariwa wa nyuwo, eyo enivekela miruku ni opixa murima anyu wira muhaakhule moonanariwa. Biibiliya onnitumererya wira: “Mukuxe murima w’othunku, murima worera, wowiyeviha, womàla ni wovilela”.​—aKolosi 3:12, 13.

Mulepeke ewarakha: Ikwaha sikina vanniliyaliwa wira ti vootthuneya olepa ewarakha erina masu oomaaliha wa ale akhweliwe. Niireke wira ti vootthuneya? Cindy yoowo maama awe okhwiiye mwaha wa kanser onaakhula so: “Mpatthani aka aahikilepela ewarakha yooreera. Tthiri eyo yaahikikhaliherya mwaha woowi kaaniwerya osoma ekwaha ni ekwaha”. Ewarakha eyo aahiiso ekartau ya olipiha pooti opakiwa ni masu ‘ohirakamexa’, masi ehaana ohimya eri vamurimani vanyu. (aHéberi 13:22) Ewarakha eyo pooti wooniherya othokorerya wanyu ni okathi wooreerela ovirinhe anyu ni ole okhwiiye, aahiiso moota ole okhwiiye saakhalihenrya awe okumi anyu.

Nvekeleke vamosa n’awo: Muhiyeveihe otthuneya wa ovekela hoothe ni waavekelela ale akhweliwe. Biibiliya onihimya wira: “Malompelo [mavekelo] n’uvara metto wa mutthu . . . onniwerya valupale”. (Yakobo 5:16) Mwa ntakiheryo, woowiriyanani mwaavekelelaka onoowerya waakhaliherya ovukula miyuupuwelo saya sa wiivaha nthowa.​—Mulikanyihe ni Yakobo 5:13-15.

Muhaarakamele ale akhweliwe mwaha woohoona yoohimya aahiiso yoopaka: Hiyo pooti wuupuwelaka so: ‘Okathi ola kinoona wira vanreerela okhala mekhaya’. Masi waaniheryasa, etthu enniiriha waarakamelaka nthowa noowi nnoova ohimya etthu aahiiso opaka etthu yoohiloka. Nto, ohixukuriwa ni apatthani, amusi, aahiiso maKristau akhw’awe, pooti wuncererya owereya ni omeekha wa ole okhweliwe. Muupuweleke wira miteko ni masu ooreera ikwaha sinceene khanvila ohimya. (aÉfeso 4:32) Paahi ophiya wanyu mapuro ale ti etthu yoolipiha vanceene. (Mulikanyihe ni Miteko s’Arummwa 28:15.) Uupuwelaka nihiku naakhwiiye mwanawe mwaamuthiyana, Teresa onihimya wira: “Okathi ene yoole, mukhora wa oxiripitaali waahisareya apatthani ahu; axitokweene otheene a mmulokoni ni axaaraya yaahirwa. Athiyana akina yaahirwa ahilokihenrye ikharari saya mwaha wa waakuva, nto akina yaahirwa ni ikuwo sa omutekoni. Awo yaahihiya ovara miteko saya nto khurwa mowaakuveya. Anceene a yaawo yaahinleela wira khiyaasuwela yoohimya, masi etthu yootthuneya yaari orwa opuro ole paahi”.

Muhaakhanyererye wira amaale oriipiwa murima: Hiyo pooti ophavela ohimya wira: ‘Vano, mmaaleke ni muhinleke’. Owehasa wene, pooti otthuneyaka wunla. Uupuwelaka okhwa wa iyawe, Catarina onihimya so: “Miyo kinoona wira ti vootthuneya waahiya ale akhweliwe wooniherya oriipiwa waya murima”. Musyake waalakiherya ale akhweliwe moota wowooniherya oriipiwa murima. Muhuupuweleke wira muhaana wiipithiha oriipiwa wanyu murima wira muhixankihe muupuwelo aya. Moovirikana ni vo, Biibiliya onihimya wira: “Mujikuleke vamosá n’ale anìkhupanyerya”.​—aRoma 12:15.

Muhaakuvele ohimya wira arihe ikuwo aahiiso itthu sikina sa ole okhwiiye ehinatthi axineene ophavela opaka eyo: Waaniheryasa, hiyo pooti woonaka okhala vookhalela waaleela  wira arihe aahiiso ohiya ovarihela muteko itthu iye mwaha woowi sinniwiiriha ovikaniha oriipiwa murima. Masi muhapo oni: “Ele ehinooneya, khenwerya wuupuweliwa” pooti ohivariheleya muteko mmwaha ola. Ole okhweliwe khino onitthuneya oliyalaka vakhaani-vakhaani. Muupuweleke ele Biibiliya enihimya awe sa moota muhavinre Yakobe soonenle awe vaavo vaakupalihiwa awe wira mwanawe aitthaniwa Yosefe, iiviwe ni mwaamunama a mutakhwani. Nuumala Yakobe woonihiwa nlaya na Yosefe naattikittheliwe ephome, owo ‘ahinwarela mwan’awe mulala mahiku manjene. Vano an’awe othene alopwana n’athiyana yahirwa omuhakalaliha, nto owo khatthunne omàlihiwa’.​—Maphattuwelo 37:31-35.

Muhihimye wira ‘Munoomuyara mwaana mukina’: Maama yoowo okhweliwe mwanawe onnuupuwela oriki: “Vaanikinyoonya vaavo atthu vaakileela aya wira, kinoomuyara mwaana mukina”. Atthu awo pooti ohimya siiso ni muupuwelo wooloka, masi wa axitiithi akhweliwe, masu oowi anoomuyara  mwaana mukina mmapuro mwa ole okhwiiye, pooti okhala ntoko “tukuthi [ekatana] onvulaliha”. (Miruku 12:18) Mwaana okhwiiye khonwerya orantteliwa ni mukina oniyariwa. Nthowa xeeni? Nthowa noowi khuta mwaana toovirikana.

Khahiyo wira vanitthuneya osyaka omulavula ole okhwiiye: Maama mmosa onnuupuwela oriki: “Atthu anceene khiyaaromola nsina na mwanaka Jimmy aahiiso olavula sa owo. Ohimya ekeekhai, vaanikiwereya vaavo akina yaapaka aya eyo”. Muhirukunuxeke mwaha moohitthuneya vaavo vaniromoliwa aya nsina na ole okhwiiye. Mmukohe ole okhweliwe akhala wira onniphavela olavula sa ole okhwiiye onimphenta awe. (Mulikanyihe ni Yobi 1:18, 19 ni 10:1.) Alipa-ookhweliwa akina annisiveliwa owiriyana vaavo apatthani vanilavula aya mikhalelo sooloka saarina awe ole okhwiiye.—Mulikanyihe ni Miteko s’Arummwa 9:36-39.

Muhaakuveleke ohimya wira, ‘Fataari vaavale vakhwiiye awe’: Weererya ophwanya masu oolipiha wa ole okhweliwe, ikwaha sikina pooti ‘ohilipiha murima wa ale ahilimpe’, yaawo ariipiwe murima. (1 aTesalonika 5:14) Uupuwelaka okathi waakhwiiye maama awe, muthiyana mmosa oohitheliwa aahimmye wira: “Akina pooti ohimya wira, ‘Khonihaawa vano’, aahiiso ‘Vano oomumula’. Masi miyo nkaaphavela wiiwa masu awo”. Masu awo pooti owiiriha ale akhweliwe wuupuwelaka wira khantthuneya wooniheryaka oriipiwa murima aahiiso khapweteiwale vanceene. Nto, awo pooti otepaka woona owereya mwaha woowi aapweteiwa tthiri ole onimphenta aya.

Khahiyo vooloka ohimya wira, ‘Miyo kinnisuwela othunku onoophwanyani’: Niireke wira ti siiso? Mwa ntakiheryo, niireke wira nyuwo munnisuwela tthiri owereya onimphwanya tiithi aahiiso maama vaavo mwanawe vanikhw’awe, masi nyuwo muhitonko okhweliwa siiso? Nto, pooti mutonko ene okhweliwa, muupuweleke wira owereya onaaphwanya atthu akina waaniheryasa khonlikana ni owereya woophwannyeni. (Mulikanyihe ni Wikhupanyerya 1:12.) Masi, vaakhalelaka vale, pooti okhala vootthuneya waaleela moota mwaavilenle anyu nuumala okhweliwa ole onimphenta anyu. Muthiyana mmosa yoowo iiviwe mwanawe mwaamuthiyana, aahilipiheya vaavo maama mukina aakhweliwe mwanawe mwaamuthiyana vaamuhimenrya awe moota saatthikenle awe miteko sawe. Owo aahimmye wira: “Maama ole okhweliwe mwanawe khaahimmye wira: ‘Miyo kinnisuwela othunku onoophwanyani’. Ohiya vo, owo aakilenle moota itthu siiranen’ye aya wa owo, nto eyo yaahikikhaliherya woona yoowiira”.

Waakhaliherya ale akhweliwe vanivekela woonela othunku, ankhili, ni niphento nanyu. Muhiwehereryeke wira ale akhweliwe arweeke wa nyuwo. Muhihimyeke paahi: “Yakhala etthu eniwerya aka opaka . . . ” Mphaveleke nyuwo aneene “etthu eyo”, nto khiyakhaliherya ele enitthuneya opaka.

Nlelo annihala makoho vakhaani ahaakhuliwe: Sai voohimya sa yoolipelela ya Biibiliya ya ohihimuwa? Enitaphulela exeeni wa nyuwo ni wa ale akhwiiye anaaphenta anyu? Ninrowa okupali sai wira yoolipelela eyo ti yekeekhai?