IBhayibheli lifundisa ukuthi ukungayilawuli intukuthelo kuyingozi, kulowo oyifukamelayo nakulabo abamzungezile. (IzAga 29:22) Nakuba ngezinye izikhathi kungenzeka kube nezizathu ezizwakalayo zokuthukuthela, iBhayibheli lithi labo abaqhubeka ‘benesifuthefuthe sentukuthelo’ ngeke basindiswe. (Galathiya 5:​19-​21) IBhayibheli lineziqondiso ezingasiza umuntu akwazi ukulawula intukuthelo.

•  Zikhona yini izizathu ezizwakalayo zokuthukuthela?

•  Kunini lapho ukuthukuthela kungafanele khona?

•  Ungayilawula kanjani intukuthelo?

•  Amavesi eBhayibheli akhuluma ngentukuthelo

Yebo. Ngezinye izikhathi siyaba nazo izizathu zokuthukuthela. Ngokwesibonelo, indoda ethembekile uNehemiya ‘yathukuthela kakhulu’ lapho izwa ngokucindezelwa kwabantu eyayikhonza nabo uNkulunkulu.​—Nehemiya 5:6.

NoNkulunkulu uyathukuthela ngezinye izikhathi. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho abantu bakhe endulo bephula isivumelwano ababesenze naye base beqala ukukhonza abanye oNkulunkulu, ‘intukuthelo kaJehova yabavuthela.’ (AbaHluleli 2:13, 14) Noma kunjalo, uNkulunkulu akaziwa ngokuba nentukuthelo. Uma ethukuthela kusuke kunesizathu esihle, futhi intukuthelo yakhe uyayilawula ngaso sonke isikhathi.​—Eksodusi 34:6; Isaya 48:9.

Intukuthelo yimbi uma singekho isizathu esizwakalayo sayo nalapho ingalawulwa, okuyinto abantu abanesono abavame ukuyenza. Ngokwesibonelo:

• UKhayini ‘wathukuthela kakhulu’ lapho uJehova engawamukeli umhlatshelo wakhe. UKhayini wavumela ukuba intukuthelo ikhule, waze wabulala umfowabo.​—Genesise 4:​3-8.

• Umprofethi uJona “wavutha ngentukuthelo” lapho uJehova ebonisa abaseNineve umusa. UNkulunkulu wakulungisa ukucabanga kukaJona, embonisa ukuthi ‘kwakungalungile ukuvutha kwakhe ngentukuthelo’ nokuthi kwakufanele abonise umusa kulabo ababezisola ngobubi babo.​—Jona 3:10–​4:​1, 4, 11. a

Lezi zibonelo zibonisa ukuthi, “intukuthelo yomuntu ayikufezi ukulunga kukaNkulunkulu.”​—Jakobe 1:​20.

• Cabanga ngezingozi zokungayilawuli intukuthelo. Abanye bangase bacabange ukuthi ukuveza intukuthelo kubonisa ukungesabi. Empeleni, umuntu ohlukela ukulawula intukuthelo usuke ebonisa ubuthaka. ‘Umuntu ongayibambi intukuthelo yakhe unjengomuzi ofohliwe, ongenalo udonga.’ (IzAga 25:28; 29:11) Kodwa lapho silawula intukuthelo yethu, sisuke sibonisa isibindi sangempela nokuqonda. (IzAga 14:29) IBhayibheli lithi: “Owephuza ukuthukuthela ungcono kunendoda enamandla.”​—IzAga 16:32.

• Funda ukulawula intukuthelo ngaphambi kokwenza into ozozisola ngayo. IHubo 37:8 lithi: “Hlukana nentukuthelo uyeke ukufutheka. Ungafuthelani ukuba nje wenze okubi.” Phawula ukuthi uma sizizwa sithukuthela, singakwazi ukuyidlulisa into esicasulayo ngaphambi kokuba size ‘senze okubi.’ Njengoba sifunda encwadini yabase-Efesu 4:​26, “thukuthelani, kodwa ningoni.”

• Uma kungenzeka, hamba uma uzizwa usuqala ukuthukuthela. IBhayibheli lithi: “Ukuqala kombango kunjengomuntu ovulela amanzi; ngakho ngaphambi kokuba kuqhume ingxabano, hamba.” (IzAga 17:14) Nakuba kuwukuhlakanipha ukulungisa indaba ngokushesha, kodwa zinikeni isikhathi sokwehlisa umoya ngaphambi kokuzama ukulungisa indaba.

•   Thola amaqiniso ngendaba. UmBhalo wezAga 19:11 uthi: “Ukuqondisisa komuntu ngokuqinisekile kubambezela intukuthelo yakhe.” Kuwukuhlakanipha ukuthola wonke amaqiniso ngendaba ngaphambi kokufinyelela iziphetho. Uma sizinika isikhathi sokuthola wonke amaqiniso, siyogwema ukuthukuthela ngokungadingekile.​—Jakobe 1:​19.

•   Thandazela ukuthula kwengqondo. Umthandazo ungakusiza uthole “ukuthula kukaNkulunkulu okudlula konke ukucabanga.” (Filipi 4:7) Umthandazo ungenye yezindlela esingacela ngazo umoya ongcwele kaNkulunkulu, ongasisiza sibe nokuthula, ukubekezela, nokuzibamba.​—Luka 11:13; Galathiya 5:​22, 23.

• Bakhethe kahle abangane bakho. Sivame ukufana nabantu esichitha nabo isikhathi sethu. (IzAga 13:20; 1 Korinte 15:33) Yingakho iBhayibheli lisixwayisa: “Ungabi nabungane nanoma ubani othambekele entukuthelweni; futhi ungangeni nomuntu onesifuthefuthe sentukuthelo.” Isizathu? “Ukuze ungajwayelani nezindlela zakhe futhi ngokuqinisekile uthathele umphefumulo wakho ugibe.”​—IzAga 22:24, 25.