“Ngikhululeka kuphela uma nginabangane bami, kunzima ukujwayelana nabanye abantu.”​—U-Alan.

 “Angikuthandi ukuba nabangane abaningi nokukhuluma nabantu engingabazi.”​—USara.

 Uzizwa njengo-Alan noSara yini? Nawe unabangane abambalwa osondelene nabo futhi awuthandi ukuthola abangane abasha?

 Uma kunjalo lesi sihloko sibhalelwe wena!

•  Inkinga ngokuba nabangane abambalwa

•  Ongakwenza

•  Okushiwo ontanga yakho

 Ayikho into embi ngokuba nabangane abambalwa osondelene nabo. Kwenza uzizwe wamukelekile naphezu kwamaphutha akho.

 “Kumnandi ukuba phakathi kwabangane abakuthandayo. Uma usemusha, ufuna ukwamukeleka.”​—UKaren, 19.

 Bewazi? UJesu wayenabangane abaningi, okuhlanganisa nabaphostoli bakhe abangu-12 kodwa uPetru, uJakobe noJohane babengabangane bakhe abaseduze kakhulu.​—Marku 9:2; Luka 8:​51.

 Ukuba neqembu elilodwa labangane ozwana nabo nokungafuni ukuthola abanye, kungakubangela izinkinga. Ngokwesibonelo:

•   Kungakwenza ulahlekelwe ithuba lokuthola abanye abangane abahle.

   “Awukwazi ukufunda izinto ezintsha kwabanye uma unabangane ababodwa.”​—U-Evan, 21.

•   Kungakwenza ubonakale ungumuntu ozenza ngcono.

   “Uma uzwana neqembu elithile labangane, ungenza abanye bacabange ukuthi awufuni ukukhuluma nabo.”​—USara, 17.

•   Kungakwenza uxhaphaze abanye.

   “Uma uwedwa ungase ungabaxhaphazi abanye, kodwa uma abangane bakho bekwenza ungagcina nawe usukwenza futhi ukujabulele.”​—UJames, 17.

•   Kungakufaka enkingeni, ikakhulu uma uzimisele ukwenza noma yini ukuze ube yingxenye yalelo qembu labangane.

   “Uma umuntu oyedwa kulelo qembu enza izinto ezimbi, nonke ningagcina senizenza.”​—UMartina, 17.

•   Cabanga ngokuthi ufuna ukuphila kanjani.

   Zibuze: ‘Ngifuna ukuphila kanjani? Ingabe abangane bami benza kube nzima ukuphila ngendlela engiyifunayo? Ngingaqhubeka yini ngizwana nabo ngisho noma kunjalo?’

   Okushiwo iBhayibheli: “Ukuzihlanganisa nababi konakalisa imikhuba emihle.”—1 Korinte 15:33.

   “Uma abangane bakho benza izinto ongazithandi, nawe ungagcina sewenza izinto ongakaze ucabange ukuthi ungazenza.”​—U-Ellen, 14.

•   Cabanga ngokuthi yini ebalulekile kuwe.

   Zibuze: ‘Ingabe ngingenza izinto engingazithandi ngenxa nje yokuthi angifuni ukulahlekelwa abangane bami? Ngingenzenjani uma umngane wami enza into engafanele?’

   Okushiwo iBhayibheli: “Bonke engibathandayo ngiyabasola.”—IsAmbulo 3:19.

   “Uma omunye wabangane bakho enza into engalungile, ungase obone sengathi uma umceba uzobe uyamdayisa.”​—UMelanie, 22.

•   Thola abangane abengeziwe.

   Zibuze: ‘Kungangisiza yini ukuthola abangane abengeziwe?’

   Okushiwo iBhayibheli: “Ningakhathaleli nje kuphela izindaba zenu siqu, kodwa futhi nikhathalele nezabanye.”—Filipi 2:4.

   “Kungase kube nzima ngezinye izingane ukujwayela abanye, ngenxa yendlela eziphathwa ngayo ekhaya. Kodwa uma uzama ukuzijwayela ungase ubone ukuthi kumnandi ukuba nazo.”​—UBrian, 19.

 Nakhu okubalulekile: Akukubi ukuzwana nabangane abathile nje kuphela. Kodwa kungakusiza ukuzama ukuthola abangane abengeziwe. IBhayibheli lithi: “Kwenzeni umkhuba ukupha, khona-ke abantu bayonipha.”—Luka 6:38.